Hello,
I am a spanish national living in germany for 3 years. I have a small kid with my german partner but we are not married.
I am about to accept a job in Luxembourg, however i have a question that no one could answer so far.
We live currently near Frankfurt, 160 km away in a straight line to Luxembourg. I will rent an apartment in Luxembourg to stay monday to friday and return to my german residency friday to monday morning.
I was told that once i work and have an appartment rented in luxembourg i must register as a resident in luxembourg.
However, i want to keep my residence (anmeldung) in Germany, basically for two reasons: in case something goes wrong with my partner, it would be too easy for her to say that I "abandoned" them, as i live in a different country with no links to them. The second reason is because i believe it makes sense, i just go to luxembourg to work monday to friday, but my home and family are definitely in germany.
At work they tell me that i cannot have the status of cross-border worker as my family is way too far from luxembourg.
In luxembourg information office they tell me luxembourg does not recognize a second residence
in germany they only recognize second residences inside german territory
on top of all that, in the spanish consulates they freak out as if i would manage to have residence in both countries (dont even know if this is possible to start with) i would be oblied to register in both consulates and this is not possible!
Is there someone here in my situation? what is the best thing to do? i know that "dont tell anything in germany and keep your anmeldung there" is a possibility but i would like to avoid being in an "irregular" situation.
PS: this has nothing to do with taxes, i dont care about taxes, everyone i ask goes directly to the subject as seems that luxembourg is kind of the paradise blah blah blah, but really, the only thing i want is to have a regular situation in germany and work monday to friday in lux.
thanks a lot for your help!!!